20 Destructive Habits

Here are some nuggets from the book What God You Here Won't Get You There.  I'll post it in a number of parts.
 
At some point, successful people discover that they are held back from achieving their potential because of nagging interpersonal habits.  These are 20 that are crucial to eliminate if you want to go to that next level.
 
Habit #1 — Winning Too Much
 
Winning can become a liability if we cannot tell the difference between being competitive and overcompetitive.  If we are not careful we get in the habit of having to win and therefore treat people as less important than the win.  Sometimes we argue, ignore,
freeze out and avoid people just because we are chalking up a win on a scale that no one cares about but us.
 
Habit #2 — Adding Too Much Value
 
People that are successful or that are knowledgeable often can’t keep their mouths shut.  Instead of listening and celebrating or encouraging, we can listen and then feel that need to add our two cents.  Whether this is to demonstrate that “we already knew that” or to show that there are other possibly better ways of going about it, the damage is done.
 
Habit #3 — Passing Judgment
 
When you ask someone’s opinion, especially if it is about yourself, just say “thanks.”  We
often feel the need to pass judgments on the opinion, rather then just receiving it.
 
Habit #4 — Making Destructive Comments
 
Before speaking sarcastically or cutting a person down, ask whether what you are saying is constructive or helpful in any way.  If not, shut your mouth.
 
Habit #5 — Starting with ‘No,’ ‘But’ or ‘However’
 
When w e start a sentence with any of these words, we are merely indicating that we believe the other person is wrong about what they are saying.  Stop trying to defend your position just because you disagree.